As the wheel of the year turned again at the end of September, through the festival of Mabon, the leaves have started to change. Nature has a lesson for us every day, and more obviously, every season. Autumn's lesson is that of letting go...
You'd be forgiven for thinking of letting go as a rule we ought to live by more closely, that it carries the expectation of not reacting, not feeling, and forgetting all about it; that it is a stick with which we should beat ourselves whenever we get caught up in emotions. When we look to nature for guidance, this is not how letting go works.
It does happen. But it is not a sudden change! The sap starts to retreat in deciduous trees, and they begin to change colour. The trees sense the change in the air. They stop their production of chlorophyll, losing the brightness of their greens, fading back to the other, less potent contents of the leaves in their yellows, oranges, reds, and purples. Trees release a type of hormone to seal off the leaves, allowing them to drop.
"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished."
~ Lao Tsu
Letting go doesn't have to be about not having a feeling or opinion, not is it about pretending something never happened or developing apathy. Rather than trying to push away something unpleasant, or pretend it doesn't exist, letting go is about acceptance. Accepting it happened, accepting it exists. This is not the same as approving of it or liking it. It is merely about acknowledging that life happens outside of our control, and that this doesn't have to take control over us. A simple, yet powerful practice, albeit frustrating at times.
"It's not a matter of letting go - you would if you could. Instead of "Let it go," we should probably say "Let it be."
~ Jon Kabat Zinn
Author - Zoe Copeland, MFHT
With a background in education, sports coaching and mental health, Zoe began to explore more holistic avenues of helping people with a particular focus on where the mind and body meet. Zoe began her bodywork training in Sports Massage and has since studied other massage theories and techniques, as well as Reiki, to provide a holistic approach to each treatment. With specific training in women's health, trauma and scars, she has developed an intuitive practice which leaves you feeling a positive change in your body and mind after every appointment.